Tea Pot or “Life Is not Supposed to Be Taken Too Seriously”
Yesterday I went out with my friend. We were sitting at a restaurant table when the server came, introduced herself and took our drink order. After a few minutes she was back with my friend’s water and a tray of tea utensils for my green tea.
My friend and I hadn’t seen each other for a long time, so we were happily exchanging dozens of questions, talking about a million things, catching up.
Without interrupting our conversation, we reached for our drinks: my friend squeezed a slice of lemon into her water, freed a straw from its wrapping and stuck it into her glass and I opened a tea bag, put it into the mug, picked up the pot of boiled water and began carefully tilting it into the mug.
Because I was in the middle of a conversation, it took me a while to realize that the pot felt too light and no water was coming out.
I put it down and opened the lid. The tea pot was as empty and dry as the Nevada land in which I am living. I thought it was such a funny mistake that I started laughing. My friend was smiling, too. The next minute we forgot about it and continued our excited chatting.
Ten minutes later the server returned to take our food order. This is when I told her that I hadn’t gotten any water for my tea and opened the lid of the pot to show her the dry inside. She glanced at the tea pot and then at the mug and saw that there was no water in either.
This had never happened to me before and I found the whole “incident” to be extremely funny, so while the server was still deciding how to react, I was laughing once again. A second later, the server and my friend joined in.
When the server disappeared in the kitchen, still with a huge smile on her face, my friend pointed out: “She got a good laugh out of it, too.”
This is when I became aware of how this little “mishap” became a source of joy and laughter for all three of us and how so often we choose a different approach, and turn something unexpected that happens in our lives into a problem. Usually, a big problem, and not just for ourselves, but for others as well.
I could have done that too – I could have become very angry, I could have yelled at the server, I could have made a scene and even asked to speak with the manager. Haven’t you seen many people do just that? What for?
Boiled water arrived within minutes, my tea was brewing and my friend and I carried on with our dinner. The mischievous universe had played a little joke on us, we all thought it was hilarious, laughed wholeheartedly, and had a wonderful time. This was so much better than ruining our dinner and probably the whole day for the server, don’t you think?
I’ve recently asked a friend, who had just turned 70 years old, about the biggest lesson he had learned in his time on this planet. He said: “Life is not supposed to be taken too seriously.”
How often do we forget this and make ourselves and everyone around us completely miserable, wasting our time here on being angry and unhappy?
I love what my dear friend and life coach Phil Goddard says often: “We are the ones who get to decide whether to see life as a documentary or a sitcom.”
I’m choosing to see my life as a sitcom rather than documentary or drama; how about you?